If you’re feeling lonely at university, ironically, you’re not alone. It’s very common for students to feel this way, particularly when they first move away from home. It probably sounds bizarre as you’re likely surrounded by people but it’s all very new and can be intimidating for even the most sociable people. So, we’ve put together a few helpful hints and tips to help you tackle loneliness at university.
Why do I feel lonely at university?
There’s a host of reasons why you might be feeling lonely, including:
- Missing your friends and family
- You maybe struggle to talk to new people so avoid conversations
- Anxiety about your course and new way of life
- Being in a long-distance relationship
- Feeling like you don’t have anyone to talk to about how you feel
Feelings of loneliness certainly don’t have to last forever and there’s so many things you can do to overcome it.
What can I do to beat loneliness at university?
Just say hi and ask questions
When you meet someone in a lecture or perhaps your accommodation’s living area, you’ll be amazed how far just being approachable can get you. Plus, generally speaking, people love to talk about themselves so if you’re ever stuck, just ask questions. Conversation will be flowing in no time.
Join a club or society
University life is all the richer for embracing your interests and spending time with like minded people. That’s why societies and clubs are great for tackling loneliness at university. It could even be an opportunity to try something new and really get yourself out of your comfort zone. Or check out our round up of some great sites and communities you can join as a student.
It’s important to keep in touch with the people that mean a lot to you – ideally not to the point where you’re isolating yourself from your immediate surroundings. But, some encouraging words from your best friend before you go into the common area for the first time can go a long way in beating loneliness at university.
Work it out
A part-time job while you’re studying might not work with your studies but it’s worth considering if you can manage a few hours a week. It’s a great opportunity to meet some totally new people, get a change of scenery and, of course, a little extra cash never hurts.
Remember, that what you’re feeling is perfectly natural and if you feel able to, try to talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. It’s important to acknowledge if you’re experiencing loneliness at university as avoiding it and hoping it will go away can be really detrimental to your mental health. You’re likely to be surprised at how others around you are feeling a similar way.